Marriage is not the end result of love; it is THE opportunity to love. It’s learning to love and love, all over and over again. It is loving your spouse no-matter-what, in good times and bad.

Cherish the love you have for each other. Take time to enjoy what you both used to do together. Remember the first time you met & you whispered sweet nothings and “I love you”? Recall the long walks at the beach, the cycling trips and the movies that brought the two of you together?

Make each day count, whether it’s preparing a bowl of instant noodles, sharing a hug, writing a love note, making his or her favourite drink or going home together after work. Let your partner know that he or she matters to you. Little things done on a daily basis makes one feel loved and special.

Use technology to your advantage. Use your mobile phone, computer, digital camera and other technological gadgets that you own to bring your spousal relationship closer. If they are taking you away from each other, discard it or moderate your usage. Don’t allow them to run or ruin your marriage.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Yes, respect your spouse! Don’t put him/her down at home, in public and in front of the kids and the relatives. Each day tell your spouse something that you admire about him/her. Remember the qualities that attracted you when you first met?

Forgive and let go. Forgiveness is setting YOU free from all the agony, pains and hurt. Whatever is done cannot be undone, but life goes on. You have a choice and you can choose to forgive and let go.

Enjoy, have fun and laugh with each other. The two of you deserve it! Take time out. Learn to play and laugh all over again.

Ms Evelyn Khong
Fei Yue Community Services